The Life & Times of B

Why is it that when you get into a disagreement/fight/argument, whatever you choose to call it, with someone (usually, for me, it's a girl), they "don't want to talk about it right now?" This is likely because they are "too angry" and don't want to discuss it further at the current time. This is something I've heard called "running away from a fight." My question is this: when is the appropriate time to talk about it then? Some other time when they're mad again? Some other time when they're happy? Something in the middle? (Is that possible?) Let's take a look at what usually happens in each scenario.

• When they're mad again: You're probably already fighting or arguing again and you bring up an old, unresolved fight. Reasonable thinking is that 1) the fight will get even bigger and out of control and you'll both get even angrier, 2) they'll run away from the fight again, or 3) somehow you'll resolve one or both fights (yeah.... right).
  
• When they're happy: You both are having a good day and you decide its time to resolve the fight. Reasonable thinking is that 1) they get mad at you for bringing up something negative and you both end up getting mad again and don't solve anything, 2) they'll run away from the fight again, or 3) you both manage to keep your cool, understand the other's argument, finally resolve the fight, and all is well.
• Something in the middle: I don't know what exactly this might entail, but see the above two scenarios.

I don't know what the odds are for each situation happening, but I do know that it pisses me off when people run away from disagreements. Chronic or habitualy "runners" really piss me off... essentially, they're inviting whatever it was that started the fight to come back up and start another. It has happened to me SOOOOOOO many times and I'm sick of it. I mean, who likes fighting? I think it's safe to say that nobody, especially myself, would answer "I do" to that question. I have always been one to resolve a conflict right then and there, and always will be. I don't like dragging it on because 1) I don't like thinking about it and unfortunately, thats all I can think about, 2) the elapsed time causes you to forget things that you wanted to talk about, 3) it gives people time to make up lies and excuses for their behavior (it's much harder to make them up on the spot), and 4) as said above, if you don't get to it soon enough, it will just come right back up.

Okay, enough ranting for now. Hope ya had a good weekend and have a good week in class/at work/doing whatever it is you do.