Monday, April 11, 2005
What else is new?
Again, it has been many moons since my last post. No real surprise there.
So what has gone on in that time? First there was my cousin's funeral... man was that hard. Right after that was the fall of a relationship. Right after that was the start of a new relationship... which also just fell. Most people would recommend that I not write about my feelings or women right now, but really, I'm not like most people and I'm gonna do what I want. And right now, I want to write about it. If you were hoping for more details about my life, just to forewarn you, you'll be disappointed.
A thought crossed my mind the other day and has stuck with me ever since: we ALWAYS hear about all the relationship advice books/columns for men and how men need them, but why (in comparison) are there no relationship advice books/columns for WOMEN??? I mean, think about it... who does Dr. Phil (although I really don't care for the guy, he illustrates the point effectively) almost always give the relationship advice to? Men. Are there or are there not articles in just about every women's magazine (let's just name an example... COSMO) written for MEN on how to have a better relationship with women. An article FOR MEN in a magazine which 99.99999% of men DON'T read!!!! Hmm... that makes LOTS of sense.
Basically, my point is this: women are always saying how men "act like they know it all." If you think about it though, as far as relationships are concerned, WOMEN are the ones acting like they know it all and don't need any help or to do anything to improve relationships. It's either that, or MEN are the only ones willing to admit they need or accept advice when it comes to relationships. How else would you describe the lopsided ratio of men's and women's relationship books/columns?
Really, sustaining a relationship isn't very hard if two people are attracted to each other (physically and emotionally) and really try to COMPROMISE with each other. The crappy thing is, though, that most women don't compromise because they don't have to. Most guys, or at least guys that are worth keeping around, would do just about ANYTHING for the girl they care about. So if a girl's mad at her guy, he'll do anything she says (aka: give in) to make things happy again. Unfortunately, this is what most relationship books/columns say: the guy is usually wrong and is the one that should change/give in. Excuse my language, but that is total bullshit. Why should girls be the only one who will have someone that would do just about anything for them? Why aren't girls willing to do just about anything for their guys? If there are girls like that, where the F*** are they?
If you've been around me long enough, I'm sure you know that I'm not afraid to say exactly what is on my mind. In other words, if I'm mad at or frustrated with someone, I'm not afraid let them know that. In a relationship, it's pretty easy to see how that can cause fights (especially so if you're with someone who can't take criticism). Then, of course... when it comes down to fixing the problems, it's "compromise"-time. Really, I'm tired of always having to "compromise" in a relationship.
A quick check of dictionary.com will yield this definition of compromise: A settlement of differences in which each side makes concessions.
Seeing as how that is pretty self explanatory, take note of that definition and hopefully you'll remember it the next time trouble comes along in your relationship.
Cough "*WOMEN*" cough
So what has gone on in that time? First there was my cousin's funeral... man was that hard. Right after that was the fall of a relationship. Right after that was the start of a new relationship... which also just fell. Most people would recommend that I not write about my feelings or women right now, but really, I'm not like most people and I'm gonna do what I want. And right now, I want to write about it. If you were hoping for more details about my life, just to forewarn you, you'll be disappointed.
A thought crossed my mind the other day and has stuck with me ever since: we ALWAYS hear about all the relationship advice books/columns for men and how men need them, but why (in comparison) are there no relationship advice books/columns for WOMEN??? I mean, think about it... who does Dr. Phil (although I really don't care for the guy, he illustrates the point effectively) almost always give the relationship advice to? Men. Are there or are there not articles in just about every women's magazine (let's just name an example... COSMO) written for MEN on how to have a better relationship with women. An article FOR MEN in a magazine which 99.99999% of men DON'T read!!!! Hmm... that makes LOTS of sense.
Basically, my point is this: women are always saying how men "act like they know it all." If you think about it though, as far as relationships are concerned, WOMEN are the ones acting like they know it all and don't need any help or to do anything to improve relationships. It's either that, or MEN are the only ones willing to admit they need or accept advice when it comes to relationships. How else would you describe the lopsided ratio of men's and women's relationship books/columns?
Really, sustaining a relationship isn't very hard if two people are attracted to each other (physically and emotionally) and really try to COMPROMISE with each other. The crappy thing is, though, that most women don't compromise because they don't have to. Most guys, or at least guys that are worth keeping around, would do just about ANYTHING for the girl they care about. So if a girl's mad at her guy, he'll do anything she says (aka: give in) to make things happy again. Unfortunately, this is what most relationship books/columns say: the guy is usually wrong and is the one that should change/give in. Excuse my language, but that is total bullshit. Why should girls be the only one who will have someone that would do just about anything for them? Why aren't girls willing to do just about anything for their guys? If there are girls like that, where the F*** are they?
If you've been around me long enough, I'm sure you know that I'm not afraid to say exactly what is on my mind. In other words, if I'm mad at or frustrated with someone, I'm not afraid let them know that. In a relationship, it's pretty easy to see how that can cause fights (especially so if you're with someone who can't take criticism). Then, of course... when it comes down to fixing the problems, it's "compromise"-time. Really, I'm tired of always having to "compromise" in a relationship.
A quick check of dictionary.com will yield this definition of compromise: A settlement of differences in which each side makes concessions.
Seeing as how that is pretty self explanatory, take note of that definition and hopefully you'll remember it the next time trouble comes along in your relationship.
Cough "*WOMEN*" cough
